They say the first article someone reads on your blog is like a first date. If that's true, then I think we have been on a couple of dates because I have posted hundreds of blog posts so far. Since I have your attention, now I want your heart.
It could be because I am also a little bit in love with my favorite authors, or maybe it's because I am still high off of the love and recognition I have received recently from my readers through hearty emails. Whatever the reason, let's fall in love.
Here are my answers to the 36 questions that according to the New York times, will lead to love;
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
I have thought about this one long and hard, and I can't decide between this two people.
The first is Nelson Mandela. Seems like an obvious choice, right? But I wouldn't talk about how he managed to be one of the greatest leaders of all time. I would ask him about his daily intentions, motivations and why he dined with the guards that tortured and humiliated him during his imprisonment. I often think about that immaculate capacity for forgiveness.
The second is Beyoncé Knowles. The queen herself. Yes, she has built a successful music career but how has she maintain a mystery about her? How does a day in her life look like? Who is she when she is alone? I love her and I would love know more about her.
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
Yes. I have always had a dream of being on TV.
I pray I become a best selling author, as a start. Singing and designing cloths are also part of the dream.
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
Always! I prefer a person sending a text message/email beforehand so I can rehearse the conversation in my mind first.
I am socially awkward.
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
Beautifully empty hours that stretch out, untouchable by clients, colleagues,or friends. Preferably at the sports club.
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
I sing everyday as I cook. I am usually alone when I do, but my husband occasionally attends the concerts.
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
Definitely the body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of my life. Can you imagine not being able to learn or retain new information? Not being able to grow wiser as you age sounds like torture.
In some ways, I have always been the old soul stuck in a young woman's body.
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
I don't. I am honestly surprised I am still alive. Always thought I would die young for some reason.
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
My husband and I love to sleep in. We often take afternoon naps together.
We have both overcome painful and traumatic circumstances.
We are both big dreamers.
Also, go read my posts and see what we have in common. Comment the similarities in the comments below.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
Love! Love! Love!
It has gotten me through the toughest of times.
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
I would ensure my family learnt to engage in open and empathic communication when one is upset, frustrated or sad. Everyone would feel safe enough to be their true authentic selves so no one would feel the need to mask.
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
*refers to past blog post*
Everyone should have “stories” instead of “a life story”. And all of them should be monetized as online content separately.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
Public speaking. A little time travel wouldn't hurt either.
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
I want to know when I become a billionaire so I can stop worrying.
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
I want to start a YouTube channel or a podcast but I am terribly shy. I tried it once years ago, I didn't have the confidence to post. I think I will have to do it next year.
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
So far? Through my writing, guided journals and wellness programs, I have helped others begin their healing and self-discovery journey. I have also made the journal therapy I needed, accessible to everyone, everywhere.
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
Vulnerability. When my friends open up and talk to me about absolutely anything.
17. What is your most treasured memory?
March, 17th 2019. My wedding day.
18. What is your most terrible memory?
It was years ago. It was a peaceful and quiet night in our home. The air was cold, and the sky was dark. As dark as my memories of those years. My siblings and I were sitting in the middle of our living room, watching TV while my parents were somewhere in the house. As we were sitting there, enjoying ourselves, we suddenly heard our mother’s angry screaming voice, breaking the stillness.
“Christine!”
I rushed to where the voice was coming from. She had gone to bed earlier than usual that day but I didn’t pay it any mind. She gestured for me to move close to her as she laid in bed and whispered, “I wish you would die.”
I was stunned. I am not sure how long I stood there, but I do know that at one point I left her bedroom without saying a single word. I remember crying and screaming into my pillow later that night, begging for death to come for me. As a teenager, nothing seemed worse than rejection from those who are supposedly meant to love you unconditionally.
I understood my mothers frustration though. I had gone from the golden child with the perfect grades to an average student in the prestigious high school.
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
I would drop everything and travel across the world. I am definitely too much of a home body.
20. What does friendship mean to you?
I am currently not heavily invested in friendships as I used to be. I am taking a break from being the ride or die friend, to focus my attention on my healing and self-discovery.
I would, however love to have a best friend with whom to share my love of Korean dramas, photography and all things healing.
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
Love makes the world go round. It's the purpose for our existence.
Plus, love is what keeps my cup overflowing.
I love my hand being held when I am walking or crossing the road. The long hugs when I experience even the slightest of inconveniences. I crave more cuddles, kisses and deep conversations.
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
Does this mean I should talk about the positive traits in my readers? I am confused on this one.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
As a firstborn daughter, it could have been better but that's a story for another day.
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
It gives me anxiety.
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ...
“We are both contemplating our answers to these questions”
“We are all online looking for something interesting to read.
“We are both on a healing journey”
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ...
“my love for photography”.
As a content creator, I take a lot of pictures and videos. It would be nice to have someone who did the same so we would help each other out.
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
My need to be alone for long periods of time isn't personal. That's just who I am.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
Just tell me who you are in the comments and I will see if I am capable of doing this.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
I was once walking out of church on a windy sabbath afternoon. My appropriately-long flared dress was blown by the wind from the back, and since I was walking ahead of the crowd, I flashed everyone my butt. As if that wasn't bad enough, I was wearing a thong that day.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
I recently twisted my ankle recently and my husband had to massage it. I cried like a baby.
I cried once more when I twisted it again later that day.
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
The fact that you are still here.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
Child abuse and other people's deep insecurities.
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
I don't know. I often overshare so I can't think of something I haven't already told them.
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
My laptop. I would probably need to write a blog post about that experience.
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
My mother. We still have a lot to resolve.
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
I would love to have more video interactions with my followers on social media but I am terribly shy and awkward. How can I overcome this?
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